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me reading someone’s about and not seeing their race / ethnicity, then seeing a “longer about” link and click on that and STILL not seeing anything about their race or ethnicity
As someone who grew up with the internet, in the huge era of online safety campaigns, and the constant drilling in of not sharing your personal information online because it’s not safe. I will say this:No one, not one single person, on the internet owes you their personal information.What I share on my blog, is shared out of a choice, because that’s a decision I chose to make. Because I talk frequently on neurodivergence and sexuality, and I know I have followers who connect with that.But I don’t owe people that information.Strangers on the internet are never entitled to know:Your name.Your gender.Your age.Your date of birth.Your location: City, State, Country, wherever. Your religion.Your ethnicity (your culture, your nationality)Your race (skin colour)Your mental health.Your physical health.Your sexuality.Your anything at all.That information is personal. If you choose to share it, that’s your choice, but it is nobody elses right to have it, or demand it, or to manipulate it out of you.If someone chooses not to share that. That is not some neferious plot. This is something important to understand, especially for young people on the internet. Kids in highschool. Your information is your own personal right. Keeping that safe, keeps you safe online. We’re in this very questionable internet scape where your information can be taken, and searched, and found. Where there are people who can dox you because they had access to basic information that lead them to deeper info. Where one bit of information can be used to make a smear campaign against you. Or used to target harrassment.(This is also a really shady time where our information is being quietly sold through advertisers, and taken by data breeches, and DDOS attacks. Where there’s literal fuckin nazi’s on this site that tumblr doesn’t seem to care about because apparently breasts are worse?????)This is why protecting your privacy and safety was such a huge campaign.Everyone on the internet is a stranger. And yeah, imma cry ‘stranger danger’ here cause that’s what I grew up with, that’s what I was taught as computers became the big thing, and I was growing up on forums and chat messengers at a super young age where I was incredibly vulnerable. And i’m very lucky to have not encountered what some people I know did.A/S/L was the most frequent question people would ask, and no it’s not american sign language. Age/Sex/Location. People wanted your info.You do not need to share that information with anyone. There’s another good post on this topic here more focused on sharing age.There’s a huge difference between sharing your interests and hobbies and fandoms and the general knowledge ‘trivia’ of yourself in an ‘about’ page, VS sharing the entirety of your personal information.So if someone just has their name, age, and pronouns, but doesn’t list anything else beyond their music interests and fave bands. That’s not malicious, that’s not nefarious. That’s exercising a right to choose what you share.They don’t owe anyone an indepth analysis of their gender. They don’t owe anyone the knowledge of where they live. They don’t need to reveal if they have a disability or not. They’re just 21 yr old Vera, who likes music and wants you to use they when refering to them.Protect your information on the internet. Be safe on the internet.And don’t let anyone pressure you, or guilt you, into sharing information you don’t want to share.
seriously, what the fuck OP?
Why do the people expecting everyone to list every detail about themselves ALSO assume that nobody listing all of the information about themselves would be lying?
I lied about my age just about everywhere on the internet until I turned 18. So did … pretty sure most people in my generation?
And with the race/ethnicity thing … it’s far less common, but there have been several notable fandom explosions where it turned out that somebody was lying either to score points, or for sympathy, or so that people wouldn’t call out their really-kind-of-racist fanfic.
Exactly. Why would you assume what they posted about their A/S/L/R was accurate in the first place? I mean, if a person wanted to, they could change their posted age, ethnicity, preferred pronouns, and orientation ever single day. Just because they made information available doesn’t make it true- and doesn’t automatically make them safe. Posting that you’re 16, 18, 20 and for anyone older to Not Interact doesn’t make you safe from older people looking to prey on younger people- it makes you a TARGET. The average fan will respect your wishes and not interact with you (if they see that request), but all a predator has to do is slap a matching age on their Tumblr and apparently you’ll trust them.“Oh, their Tumblr says they are 16 too, so they’re safe to talk / RP with!” You all need to do a better job of both engaging critical thinking and keeping yourselves safe. If a conversation gets uncomfortable / too adult, leave it, whether or not you think the person you’re talking to is your age. (THEY CAN BE YOUR AGE AND STILL BE A DANGER TO YOU, by the way.) You don’t have to state a reason why and give the other person involved a chance to talk you into staying. Just go.It’s not that there’s anything wrong with being uncomfortable with the thought of talking to someone you don’t know anything about; that’s fine. It’s that you’re far too willing to be comfortable with people solely because of the information they’ve chosen to provide. And there’s few greater dangers on the internet than a false sense of security.
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lynati:
jabberwockypie:
space-finally:
maltedmilkchocolate:
birthcharts:
me reading someone’s about and not seeing their race / ethnicity, then seeing a “longer about” link and click on that and STILL not seeing anything about their race or ethnicity
As someone who grew up with the internet, in the huge era of online safety campaigns, and the constant drilling in of not sharing your personal information online because it’s not safe. I will say this:No one, not one single person, on the internet owes you their personal information.What I share on my blog, is shared out of a choice, because that’s a decision I chose to make. Because I talk frequently on neurodivergence and sexuality, and I know I have followers who connect with that.But I don’t owe people that information.Strangers on the internet are never entitled to know:Your name.Your gender.Your age.Your date of birth.Your location: City, State, Country, wherever. Your religion.Your ethnicity (your culture, your nationality)Your race (skin colour)Your mental health.Your physical health.Your sexuality.Your anything at all.That information is personal. If you choose to share it, that’s your choice, but it is nobody elses right to have it, or demand it, or to manipulate it out of you.If someone chooses not to share that. That is not some neferious plot. This is something important to understand, especially for young people on the internet. Kids in highschool. Your information is your own personal right. Keeping that safe, keeps you safe online. We’re in this very questionable internet scape where your information can be taken, and searched, and found. Where there are people who can dox you because they had access to basic information that lead them to deeper info. Where one bit of information can be used to make a smear campaign against you. Or used to target harrassment.(This is also a really shady time where our information is being quietly sold through advertisers, and taken by data breeches, and DDOS attacks. Where there’s literal fuckin nazi’s on this site that tumblr doesn’t seem to care about because apparently breasts are worse?????)This is why protecting your privacy and safety was such a huge campaign.Everyone on the internet is a stranger. And yeah, imma cry ‘stranger danger’ here cause that’s what I grew up with, that’s what I was taught as computers became the big thing, and I was growing up on forums and chat messengers at a super young age where I was incredibly vulnerable. And i’m very lucky to have not encountered what some people I know did.A/S/L was the most frequent question people would ask, and no it’s not american sign language. Age/Sex/Location. People wanted your info.You do not need to share that information with anyone. There’s another good post on this topic here more focused on sharing age.There’s a huge difference between sharing your interests and hobbies and fandoms and the general knowledge ‘trivia’ of yourself in an ‘about’ page, VS sharing the entirety of your personal information.So if someone just has their name, age, and pronouns, but doesn’t list anything else beyond their music interests and fave bands. That’s not malicious, that’s not nefarious. That’s exercising a right to choose what you share.They don’t owe anyone an indepth analysis of their gender. They don’t owe anyone the knowledge of where they live. They don’t need to reveal if they have a disability or not. They’re just 21 yr old Vera, who likes music and wants you to use they when refering to them.Protect your information on the internet. Be safe on the internet.And don’t let anyone pressure you, or guilt you, into sharing information you don’t want to share.
seriously, what the fuck OP?
Why do the people expecting everyone to list every detail about themselves ALSO assume that nobody listing all of the information about themselves would be lying?
I lied about my age just about everywhere on the internet until I turned 18. So did … pretty sure most people in my generation?
And with the race/ethnicity thing … it’s far less common, but there have been several notable fandom explosions where it turned out that somebody was lying either to score points, or for sympathy, or so that people wouldn’t call out their really-kind-of-racist fanfic.
Exactly. Why would you assume what they posted about their A/S/L/R was accurate in the first place? I mean, if a person wanted to, they could change their posted age, ethnicity, preferred pronouns, and orientation ever single day. Just because they made information available doesn’t make it true- and doesn’t automatically make them safe. Posting that you’re 16, 18, 20 and for anyone older to Not Interact doesn’t make you safe from older people looking to prey on younger people- it makes you a TARGET. The average fan will respect your wishes and not interact with you (if they see that request), but all a predator has to do is slap a matching age on their Tumblr and apparently you’ll trust them.“Oh, their Tumblr says they are 16 too, so they’re safe to talk / RP with!” You all need to do a better job of both engaging critical thinking and keeping yourselves safe. If a conversation gets uncomfortable / too adult, leave it, whether or not you think the person you’re talking to is your age. (THEY CAN BE YOUR AGE AND STILL BE A DANGER TO YOU, by the way.) You don’t have to state a reason why and give the other person involved a chance to talk you into staying. Just go.It’s not that there’s anything wrong with being uncomfortable with the thought of talking to someone you don’t know anything about; that’s fine. It’s that you’re far too willing to be comfortable with people solely because of the information they’ve chosen to provide. And there’s few greater dangers on the internet than a false sense of security.
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