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jujubiest:
gaygothur:
There’s gotta be some more middle ground between people that think friends are free therapists and people who think any conversation that is more personal than small talk about the weather is emotional labor
It’s amazing how often those two extremes are the same person. I had a friend once who expected hours of my time to talk about whatever big issue was on their mind, but who acted like talking about what was important to me for five minutes was asking too much.
I had another friend who leaned on me through all their really bad breakups, but when I had relationship issues all they offered me was judgement.
Neither of them were real friends and I don’t talk to either one anymore.
Sometimes I think being the “therapist friend,” people peg you as the stable, responsible one who doesn’t have emotional baggage. And the moment you prove that assumption wrong, some people react like you’re failing them. But you’re not. Remember that.
You are allowed to have your own issues and your friends should care about them and support you through them, just like you do for your friends.
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jujubiest:
gaygothur:
There’s gotta be some more middle ground between people that think friends are free therapists and people who think any conversation that is more personal than small talk about the weather is emotional labor
It’s amazing how often those two extremes are the same person. I had a friend once who expected hours of my time to talk about whatever big issue was on their mind, but who acted like talking about what was important to me for five minutes was asking too much.
I had another friend who leaned on me through all their really bad breakups, but when I had relationship issues all they offered me was judgement.
Neither of them were real friends and I don’t talk to either one anymore.
Sometimes I think being the “therapist friend,” people peg you as the stable, responsible one who doesn’t have emotional baggage. And the moment you prove that assumption wrong, some people react like you’re failing them. But you’re not. Remember that.
You are allowed to have your own issues and your friends should care about them and support you through them, just like you do for your friends.
(Your picture was not posted)
