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pervocracy:
witchfinder-major-saucepan:
practicalityinpraxis:
witchfinder-major-saucepan:
So like… what do gatekeepers… DO in the real world? Like if they’re at an LGBT+ event and a bi woman is like “Hi I’m Emily and this is my boyfriend,” do they like… confront her? When a person at a support group says “I’m asexual” do they just sit silently and stew in their own rage? Like how do you people function in the real world??
An enormous amount of gatekeepers don’t interact with local queer groups and communities at all. The younger ones don’t have access, and the older ones got black listed a long time ago for being vile.
That lack of access, for the younger ones, is why they are so easily targeted by older radfem types, and is why the age of gatekeepers is so skewed towards young people, btw. They have no way to experience actual queer communities, so they get sucked into this awful, dangerous parody of it.
That was a rhetorical question but this is a damn good answer
Also, not being in real-life communities means you don’t get a chance to fairly interact with all the other qualities of these people. Like, what if Emily and her boyfriend are super sweet and generous people? What if the asexual person is a fantastic listener and really understanding?
Or what if the asexual person isn’t any kind of saint, but they’re just a very specific person, with long grey hair and a dog named Pebbles and an interest in ethical archaeology?
And I know that by the strict rules of engagement this shouldn’t matter, the answer should be “you may be lovely but you’re simply not qualified to be part of this group,” but I also know that’s not how it is in real life. In real life it’s a lot easier to type “I am the ultimate judge and monarch of who counts as queer!!!” into the accepting blue void of Tumblr than it is to say it to Emily’s face.
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pervocracy:
witchfinder-major-saucepan:
practicalityinpraxis:
witchfinder-major-saucepan:
So like… what do gatekeepers… DO in the real world? Like if they’re at an LGBT+ event and a bi woman is like “Hi I’m Emily and this is my boyfriend,” do they like… confront her? When a person at a support group says “I’m asexual” do they just sit silently and stew in their own rage? Like how do you people function in the real world??
An enormous amount of gatekeepers don’t interact with local queer groups and communities at all. The younger ones don’t have access, and the older ones got black listed a long time ago for being vile.
That lack of access, for the younger ones, is why they are so easily targeted by older radfem types, and is why the age of gatekeepers is so skewed towards young people, btw. They have no way to experience actual queer communities, so they get sucked into this awful, dangerous parody of it.
That was a rhetorical question but this is a damn good answer
Also, not being in real-life communities means you don’t get a chance to fairly interact with all the other qualities of these people. Like, what if Emily and her boyfriend are super sweet and generous people? What if the asexual person is a fantastic listener and really understanding?
Or what if the asexual person isn’t any kind of saint, but they’re just a very specific person, with long grey hair and a dog named Pebbles and an interest in ethical archaeology?
And I know that by the strict rules of engagement this shouldn’t matter, the answer should be “you may be lovely but you’re simply not qualified to be part of this group,” but I also know that’s not how it is in real life. In real life it’s a lot easier to type “I am the ultimate judge and monarch of who counts as queer!!!” into the accepting blue void of Tumblr than it is to say it to Emily’s face.
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