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well i mean…as someone who identifies as polyamorous, of course i think it’s possible to be in a relationship with more than one person at a time, and no, i don’t think that being in a romantic relationship with more than one person necessarily “diminishes” the importance of any of those relationships.
i’d argue that the example you’ve given actually isn’t analogous to how polyamorous relationships (at least, the kind that you have in mind) work at all. everyone is is different. even monogamous people will tell you that no two of their romantic relationships have been the same, and this still holds for poly people. when poly people have relationships with 2 (or more) people, it’s not like they’re in the same relationship twice - they’re in two different relationships. so, to bring this back to your book analogy, it wouldn’t be like having 10 copies of the same book, it would be like owning 10 different books - each with a different story to tell that one would cherish for reasons unique to the particular book.
(as always, i’d like to clarify that every relationship, even polyamorous ones, are different - everyone “does” polyamory differently and my experiences and opinions may not be applicable to others, though i hope what i’ve said here would be something accepted as largely uncontroversial within the poly community.)
i hope that answered your questions! :)
well i mean…as someone who identifies as polyamorous, of course i think it’s possible to be in a relationship with more than one person at a time, and no, i don’t think that being in a romantic relationship with more than one person necessarily “diminishes” the importance of any of those relationships.
i’d argue that the example you’ve given actually isn’t analogous to how polyamorous relationships (at least, the kind that you have in mind) work at all. everyone is is different. even monogamous people will tell you that no two of their romantic relationships have been the same, and this still holds for poly people. when poly people have relationships with 2 (or more) people, it’s not like they’re in the same relationship twice - they’re in two different relationships. so, to bring this back to your book analogy, it wouldn’t be like having 10 copies of the same book, it would be like owning 10 different books - each with a different story to tell that one would cherish for reasons unique to the particular book.
(as always, i’d like to clarify that every relationship, even polyamorous ones, are different - everyone “does” polyamory differently and my experiences and opinions may not be applicable to others, though i hope what i’ve said here would be something accepted as largely uncontroversial within the poly community.)
i hope that answered your questions! :)
